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I’m standing in the middle of Woolworths, my 3 year old son has just had an accident. The one where he is in undies and didn’t make it to the toilet on time. My 1 year old daughter is successfully climbing out of the pram and trying to grab at fruit, which will soon cascade all around me. And I just want to scream.

All I wanted to do was grab a few things before meeting some friends for a fun sunny picnic. But right now all plans are out the window as I go into damage control. My frustration increases in direct proportion to losing control of the situation.

This is the key: when we are trying to control a situation we actually have zero control over, we experience frustration, anger – all sorts of negative emotions.

The lesson I learned: you can’t control any of it.

We actually have zero control of everything outside of our bodies. We can’t control the weather, the traffic, that person in front of us, what our partner will do or say or how our kids behave in public.

We cannot control any of it. Especially other people. We can’t control what they think about us, what they say about us or how they act towards us. Yet so often, we alter our behaviour based on how we think others will perceive us. We change what we do, what we say and how we act in case others won’t like us anymore.

But we don’t control them. We can’t. And they might love us regardless or hate us regardless. It’s all out of our control.

So it’s time to let it go. Let go of what you can’t control. Let go of people pleasing. Chances are you are going to please some and piss off others.

Let go of the outcome and just focus on being you and doing you. Focus on what you can control!!


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