I learned a great lesson over the weekend. Stop settling for what you get and instead, ask for what you want.
My whole life I always just took whatever I was given. Even if it wasn’t what I wanted. I was still beyond grateful and gracious. How fortunate am I. Because to ASK for what you want is demanding. Asking for what you want is being selfish. And I might “want” something, but I don’t “need” it.
I didn’t realise how much these limiting and false beliefs were holding me back.
On Saturday night, I was out to dinner with my husband and two kids. We were having an amazing time. The food was perfect! I really wanted dessert but I knew the kids had reached that point where they needed to get to bed now or else it’s attack of the gremlins! We were staying at the hotel attached to the restaurant and I thought “how amazing would it be if they could deliver dessert to our hotel room?”
The old me would’ve shoved that thought aside. Instead of being “demanding”, I would’ve just asked for the bill and gone back to our rooms, dessert-less.
But instead, I asked the waitress if she could arrange a dessert delivery.
She said yes. AND she waived the room service charge.
If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
And, let’s face it – what’s the worst that can happen? They say no? Oh well, you are no worse off than you were before. But at least you asked. At least you put your needs and desires first. At least you decided you were worth it to ask for what you wanted.
So where in your life do you think you are settling? Where could you ask for what you want? I understand it is much harder to do. It means rising above that mean voice in our heads that tell us we need to be happy with what we have. It means owning our worth and valuing ourselves. It means being confident in who we are. So I recommend baby steps. Ask for little things at first. Things that are an easy yes. Build up to the bigger stuff.
The more you put yourself first and the more you listen to your desires, the easier it becomes.
It’s time to stop settling for second best. It’s time to fulfil your desires. You deserve it!
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