So lately I feel like I have been drowning. Massively overwhelmed with work, family…and life in general.
And in case you were wondering “shouldn’t she have her shit together if she is going to help me get my shit together?” I’ll address that in a moment…
But back to drowning. It’s totally not fun. Not one bit. That feeling consumed by worrisome thoughts about the future, about things I cannot control, about things that haven’t even happened yet. It’s a nightmare. And it’s safe to assume that we’ve all been there. And in those moments, no amount of Ekhart Tolle and his book “Power of Now” can help you.
So then, what can we do to turn around a ship that feels like it’s off course and heading for Niagra Falls? This is what I have found works really well for me, so I encourage you to give them a go and see for yourself:
- Ask yourself “what can I control right now?”
I woke up at 3am this morning with a whole list of things running through my head. Meetings that I had later that day, emails that I needed to send, past conversations…things that had either happened or were about to happen. So past and future events. To stop this unhelpful train of thoughts, I asked myself “what can I do right now to feel better about these things?” Apart from getting up and sending those emails, there was nothing I could do. Realising that I cannot actually control any of the other stuff, I let it all go. Instead I focused on what I could control in that moment, which was getting myself back to sleep (with assistance of a guided meditation) and writing a list of to do’s (which always helps me to feel more organised). So when you are in the middle of a freak out, ask yourself what can you control. Then focus on that.
- Ask for help
Something just recently came up for me and I was freaking out in a major way. It was a huge life changing thing and I was totally overwhelmed by it. Not knowing what else to do, I reached out to a select group of people and told them what was happening. The amount of support and help that came back was incredible and instantly I was transported out of overwhelm and firmly back in control of my emotions. So, a powerful idea for you to mull over: you don’t need to do it all on your own. You absolutely do not have to do anything on your own. Of course you can, but it is way harder and takes much longer. So ask for help!
- Start taking action
Nothing helps more than starting to take action and gain some momentum. Even if it is just writing a to do list. The simple act of doing something versus sitting and stewing allows the energy of worry to move through (and out) of our bodies. It’s like the saying “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time”. You don’t need to know how to get to the top of the mountain, you just need to start taking the first few steps. So start taking action and then watch the path crystalise in front of you.
- Express yourself (and your worries)
When I feel overwhelmed, I naturally have an urge to run. I need to get out, move my legs, watch the world pass by and get into a focused zone to move pass the clouds. We have a tendancy to internalise alot of things. We keep our thoughts locked up tight, along with all the worries and concerns we are stressing over. When we find ourselves feeling overwhelmed, its really a sign that we have no more internal storage space and we need to get rid of some of the anxieties we are carrying. So the best way to do this is to let them out. Express yourself. Write them, paint them, mime them – whatever works for you! Going for a run or taking a boxing class can also be a great way to relieve stress and work through the overwhelm.
- Remind yourself: It’s only temporary
And finally, remember, that what you are experiencing now is fleeting. Each moment passes so quickly. Where you are now and, more importantly, what you are feeling right now, will not last. I promise you that. In fact, I guarantee it. So if all else fails just hold onto that fact – it won’t last forever. Things will change. This too shall pass.
Now, am I qualified to help you get through overwhelm, get clear on what you want and get motivated to take action? ABSOLUTELY! Why? Because I’ve been there and done that. I’ve been to that place of feeling stuck, low, sad, worried. I am a full time working mum. I’ve juggled more things than a typical circus clown, whilst in heels I might add!
So if you want to get out of overwhelm town and visit clarity-ville, I’m the ladyboss for you. Hit me up on facebook, insta (@michellejackcoaching) or click here to send me a private message. Let’s start getting you on the path to your dream life.