I was driving home the other day and all of a sudden I had this thought fly into my head. Everything is temporary. I am in the homestretch towards my wedding (9 days to go, but who’s counting??) and I really just wanted the wedding to be tomorrow. I felt like it was so far away and how was I going to make it through the next week and a half with so much excitement bubbling inside? That’s when this thought hit me like a tonne of bricks – everything is temporary. All of these moments are fleeting. The wedding itself will be fleeting. It will come and go as quickly as so many other great moments have come and gone. What I realised is that the lead up is temporary and that I need to soak up all the time I have.
Every time Christmas rolls around, people are always saying ‘my gosh, hasn’t this year gone fast! I can’t believe it’s Christmas time already!’ I know we all fall into the trap of this thinking. This comes from not being present. When we aren’t living each and every moment and are too focused on the future and stressing about what might happen, instead of what is happening right now, we let time slip away. Hence why we get to the end of the year and think ‘where did all of that time go?’ In the next few weeks, I’m going to focus on things we can do to be present and really living in the moment. For now, though, I really want us all to reflect on how all things are temporary. Here are just a few thoughts that will help you to unlock the beauty of the moment:
- The good things AND the bad things are temporary. There is a Buddhist saying, ‘pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional’. Bad things in life will come, just as the good things come. But the pain is temporary. The meaning that we place on that event or circumstance is what lasts. We have 100% control over what meaning we give things. So you can let go of the demons – you need to realise that the pain they caused you initially is over and you have been causing yourself pain ever since. You have the power to let it go.
- Our life is temporary. When you look back on your life, you will feel as if it went in a blink of an eye. Will you be concerned with getting rejected or not being approved by other people? Or will you be more concerned with what you could’ve done, should’ve done? Take a look at where you are holding yourself back and ask yourself ‘is this really going to matter at the end of the day?’
- Focus on what you have, rather than what you don’t – it’s a much better use of your time. We all feel as though time is precious, and it is. But to that end, we need to make the most of the time we are given. At the very core of it all, we really need to focus on what we have, where we are successful, abundant and free. Focusing on what we have helps us to feel fulfilled and satisfied, which is definitely a better way to spend your time!
So remember that life – happiness, sadness, anger, joy, pain, sorrow, excitement – is temporary. Enjoy each beautiful moment as it comes, let the bad ones pass and stop worrying about the future. It’s temporary too!